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CAREER: Do not sideline your career under any circumstances. You should know your career goals, where you have to be & in what time. Have realistic ones and persist with them.
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HUMOUR: Sense of humour plays a pivotal role in creating your impression. Learn to laugh at yourself. Don't take your self too seriously. This doesn't mean you stop respecting yourself. There is a tremendous difference betwixt the two. One that most of us fail to realize.
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JOKES: Surf the net for jokes. They are in abundance. Be very selective as the jokes you choose to tell or laugh at depict a lot about your inner personality.
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GAIN HER CONFIDENCE: Conceal mutual issues just between the two of you, especially the delicate ones. Take extra care to never reveal these even to your best friend. If you fail here, you are gone. What is worse you will deserve it too. The situation would be too embarrassing and humiliating. It would probably be almost impossible to win her confidence back. It takes hours, days, weeks, months & even years to build it but only a second to break.
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KNOW HER: Encourage her to talk more. Let her reveal more & more about herself, her family. Such kind of discussions should be initiated when only you two are alone. Know about her future plans. Let her know that you are concerned about her future.
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TEASE HER: If she is expecting your phone call, at times, avoid it. Remember! Your dog needs vaccination. Go for the same. Keep her anticipating… if at all you want to bell the cat. Next day when she asks about the evening, tell her so.
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OPPOSITES ATTRACT: If you are quiet and introvert - you will, in all probabilities, be drawn towards a bright, outgoing personality as it helps you to come out of your cocoon and open up, if you are an impulsive person you'll tend to be attracted to a more down-to-earth and stable personality, If you are the very cautious type, you'll never cease to admire those who are more enterprising and daring. So understand her personality fast and cultivate accordingly.
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HER NICK NAME: Nicknames are always personal - loved ones take that name, use it to your advantage. How do ya know about the same? When you call her at home and her mom or dad picks up and you ask for her (Example -
Anita) presence - DIG your ears deep into the phone - they yell NICK names -
Anuuuuuuu...
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USING NAME TO ADVANTAGE: You should know when to take her nick / first name. When you are talking to her, in between sentences take her name. The timing should be perfect. Don't overdo. Come out with a style and accent of your own. It works wonders.
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ANALYSE HER: See how much she is allowing you to know about herself. If she requires months of acquaintance, so be it.
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HER SOCIAL AREA: Every individual has a social area around his being. For example, if anyone comes very close to you in a fairly open place, you become uncomfortable & tend to go back to maintain that distance in between. This social area is different for every individual. Find her area. Whenever you two are discussing something intimate, gradually and unknowingly, encroach that area. Observe her reaction to it. If she feels uncomfortable, you still have a long journey to make. Do not forget to watch out for public place restrictions.
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HER REJOINDER: Actions speak louder than words, and if the female likes the way you treat her, she will soon like the inner you.
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BOY FRIEND OR…er… FRIEND: She may be taking you simply as her friend. Be sure of your instincts. Be absolutely sure before you make a move - if there is no chance, you could ruin a perfectly good relationship. Having a friend is better than having nothing at all.
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DO THE OPPOSITE: Do the opposite of what she expects you to do. Excuse, when you are expected to abuse, be polite when you are expected to be harsh.
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THE SURPRISE ELEMENT: Tell her that your great grandfather was a freedom fighter. It was he who managed the supplies of weapons to 'Garam Dal', he was a genius in machinery line. The weapon used in the assassination of Gen. Diar was made and supplied to sukhdev by your great grand father.
